The Brian Tracy eBook - Principles Of Success

A Balanced Life
By: Brian Tracy
According to psychologist Sidney Jourard, fully 85 percent of your happiness in life
will come from your personal relationships. Your interactions and the time that you
spend with the people you care about will be the major source of the pleasure,
enjoyment and satisfaction that you derive daily. The other 15 percent of your
happiness will come from your accomplishments. Unfortunately, many people lose sight
of what is truly important, and they allow the tail to wag the dog. They sacrifice their
relationships, their major source of happiness, to accomplish more in their careers. But
one’s career, at best, can be only a minor sourceand a temporary one, at thatof the
happiness and satisfaction that everyone wants.
There is no perfect answer to the key question of how to achieve balance in our lives,
but there are a number of ideas that can help you to be and have and do more in the
areas that are important to you. These ideas often require changes and modifications in
the way you think and use your time, but the price is well worth it. You will find that by
reorganizing your life in little ways, you can create an existence that gives you the
highest quality and quantity of satisfaction overall. And this must be your guiding
purpose.
The ancient Greeks had two famous sayings: “Man, know thyself” and “Moderation in
all things.” Taken together, those two ideas are a good starting point for achieving the
balance that you desire. With regard to knowing thyself, it is very important to give
some serious thought to what you really value in life. All trade-offs and choices are
based on your values, and all stress and unhappiness come from believing and valuing
one thing and, yet, finding yourself doing another. Only when your values and your
activities are congruent do you feel happy and at peace with yourself.
So knowing yourself means knowing what you really value, knowing what is really
important to you. The superior man or woman decides what is right before he or she
decides what is possible. The advanced human being organizes his or her life to assure
that everything that he or she is doing is consistent with his or her true values. It is
essential for you to organize your life around yourself, rather than to organize yourself
around the demands of your external world.
The second quote, “Moderation in all things,” is a wonderful and important dictate for
successful living. But, at the same time, you know that you can’t really be successful in
any area by being moderate in that area. Peter Drucker once wrote, “Wherever you find
something getting done, you find a monomaniac with a mission.” You know that singleminded
concentration on a goal or objective is absolutely necessary for achievement of
any kind in a competitive society.
So what’s the solution? Over the years, I have worked with tens of thousands of men
and women who have spent a lot of time and effort struggling to achieve balance in
their lives. I have found that there is a simple formula; it is simple in that it is easy to
explain, but you need tremendous self-discipline and persistence to implement it in
your life.
The formula revolves around a concept of time management, or what you might
want to call life management. Time management is really a form of personal
management in which you organize your 24 hours a day in such a way that they give
you the greatest possible return of happiness and contentment.

The key to time management, after you have determined your values and the goals
that are in harmony with those values, is to set both priorities and posteriorities. The
importance of setting priorities is obvious. You make a list of all the things that you can
possibly do and then select from that list the things that are most important to you
based on everything you know about yourself, about others and about your
responsibilities. The setting of posteriorities is often overlooked. It is when you carefully
decide which things you are going to stop doing so that you will have enough time to
start doing something else.
The greatest single shortage we experience in America today is that of time. We
suffer from what has been called “time poverty.” Men and women everywhere feel that
their biggest single challenge is that they simply do not have enough time to do all the
things that they have to do or want to do. People today feel pressured from all sides
and are under an inordinate amount of stress. They feel overworked, fatigued and
incapable of fulfilling all the responsibilities that they have taken on.
The starting point to alleviate this time poverty is to stop and think. Most people are
so busy rushing back and forth that they seldom take the time to think seriously about
who they are and why they are doing what they are doing. They engage in frantic
activity, instead of thoughtful analysis. They get so busy climbing the ladder of success
that they lose sight of the fact that the ladder may be leaning against the wrong
building.
When my wife, Barbara, and I started our family, we were faced with a common
dilemma: how can we balance the demands of work and home with the finite amount
of time we are all given?
Here’s the answer I discovered: The key to success in a busy society is to devote
your time to only two areas during the period of time when your family needs you,
when your children are between the ages of birth to about 18 to 20 years. During this
period of time, you need to curtail virtually all of your outside activities. You need to
focus on two major areasyour family and your careeras I have done over the years.
You need to place your family’s needs above all else and then organize your work
schedule so that you can satisfy those needs on a regular basis. Then, when you work,
you must concentrate single-mindedly on doing an excellent job.
Most people are time wasters. They waste their own time, and they waste your time
as well. To be successful and happy, you must discipline yourself to work all the time
you work. The average employee works at about 50 percent of capacity. Fully 80
percent of people working today are underemployed in that their jobs do not really
demand their full capacities. Only 5 percent of workers surveyed recently felt that they
were working at the outside limits of their potentials.
But this is not for you. You must resolve to work all the time you work. You must
decide that from the time you start in the morning until the time you finish in the
evening, you will work 100 percent of the time. Even if no one is watching you, you
should be aware that everyone is watching you. Everybody knows everything. In
every company, everyone knows who is working and who is not. Your job must be to
work all the time you work. If people come by and want to chat, you simply smile at
them and say, “Could we talk about this later?” Tell them that you have to get back to
work.

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